You
could have a list of things you want and those things can be presented right before you
but just because they are wrapped up In a gift wrap you don’t like you won't tell that’s what you need! Yeah, we still judge books by their covers!
I
am speaking to the young people, people of my generation especially those that
say they are waiting upon The Lord! Guess what, He is waiting upon you! To make
up your mind and let Him give you what He knows is best for you.
We
have a tendency to make things sound holy but the deeper meaning to it is
exactly the same canal desires. I am not saying it’s wrong to want a sharp
looking partner (of course I am talking about relationships, courtship and
marriage). There is nothing wrong with it, in fact make sure you are attracted
to your potential partner but that’s a story for another day. Today I wanna
talk about the sugar coated statements of “it’s
all about the heart and personality”, “a
man of God, Kingdom minded’ and other things we say! When such a man comes
and stands before you asking your hand in marriage, you hesitate! ‘He looks local, he has no swag, he is too
short, he has funny looking teeth, and he is not toned/buff enough’. We come
up with all excuses based on the things that we had earlier said don’t matter.
Some
of us end up with all those outward appearance that we desired and also with
empty hearts. You end up with those well-built bodies and toned arms that end
up making ugly marks on your body, bruising your emotions and confidence and
scarring your heart for life. When will we truly learn that there is no package?
It is what you do with that which the Lord has given you that matters.
Proverbs
14:1 … A wise woman builds her home. Let’s go through that:
Build:
Means to construct something by putting parts together over a period of time.
- Building
involves turning materials into a defined structure. It starts with parts and
bits of things that on their own are not complete.
-It
takes time. Building is not an overnight thing, laying brick after brick till a structure stands.
Building
starts somewhere and the Lord has given us that ability ladies, to build. It’s
in you! Building a home does not only mean a physical place, it’s the people,
the hearts in it, the bodies, the spirits and the souls. You take care of the
house, you feed, you nurse back to health, you cloth in clean robes, you affirm
and build confidence, you support.
Let
me let you into a secret, those man that you see with the swag that you desire.
Some of them were ‘fashion nays’ before and a woman worked her magic. Question
is, where is she now and what happened? Mmmhh!
Things
that are pointing north now will someday point south. He may have all the
physique but anything can happen. The outward appearance fades away no matter
how much you take care of it, It was never meant to last forever. The inside
though does not fade and the more you take care of it, the more beautiful it
becomes. You can’t build the heart! I am not saying say yes to man so that you
‘Fix’ him! I am saying that you CAN'T fix a heart but you can help build an
outward appearance. You can suggest clothes for him, hit the gym, lovingly give
fashion advises and a change can happen.
The
thing about a hardened heart is only God can change it, let me repeat this: YOU
CAN'T FIX A HEART. Don’t give in to the eye candies that you will share with the
public and be a punching bag alone at home. Beauty that endures is from within,
the outward beauty fades. Choose makoya!
Brothers;
how many of you have gone for the ‘outwardly beautiful’ girl without checking
her inner beauty first, only to realize that you have brought a Proverbs 27:15
woman home? But for those who haven’t made
those mistakes yet, which one will it be? The quarrelsome woman or the woman who
fears the Lord?
Pam, Selah!
Shalom